Hello again! Thank you so much to everyone for all of your love and support! We’re still in the very early, very nervous stages of this pregnancy, but I’m trying to take it a day at a time. My ticker on the side seems to be off a bit, but I’m about 7 weeks along today! For the next week I’m going to have to keep myself busy and distracted. This is about the time I lost our first baby, Declan. Somewhere between 7 and 8 weeks. I don’t go back to my doctor until about 11 weeks, so all I can do is hope that I get to that next appointment. To borrow a phrase from K over at Waiting for Sunflower, “So far, so good.”
So of course, going into my first appointment I wrote down all of my questions in a little notebook that I always carry with me. I always have it on me – except apparently when I go in for my first appointment with my doctor! Bugger. So, I tried to ask her all I could remember, but I missed most of the important ones! I’ve spent the last 3 years focusing on GETTING pregnant that I really don’t know much at all about BEING pregnant, and staying that way! I need some help. I’m hoping there are some of you TTC ladies that have looked ahead to the pregnancy stage and no what to do, or that there are some of you that have made it out of IF land and can offer me your advice/experience. I also know I have some good friends who read this who have been pregnant and may be able to help, too. So, I give you the nervous IF pregnant ladies questions so far:
1) Exercise! I know that this is good, and before the Xmas season and the BFP I was going in to a gym 3 times per week. I kinda took December off since we were traveling so much. Now I find myself in January with a little friend on board, and I’m scared to go back. I know pregnant women can exercise, but I wonder how much? Should I cut back the intensity? Should I wait a few more weeks? What do you all think?
2) BD-ing. Yes, I’m nervous about this and my poor DH suffers for it. When we went in to the ER when we lost Declan the OBGYN that examined me asked a bunch of questions and one of the first was “when was the last time you had sex?” This of course has scared me into thinking maybe we did something wrong going ahead after the RE told us it was okay. Now I find myself in this place again, and again nervous we could do something wrong. I’m sorry, this is way TMI for my friends and family that read this, but I’m pretty nervous and I want to make sure everything is okay before we go ahead.
3) Pre-natals, my nemesis. I’ve been taking the damn pills for 3 years now. I’ve been taking some over the counter stuff, but now my doc has prescribed me some. This was after I asked because I know a lot of my friends who have had babies took prescription pre-natals. My doc said it doesn’t matter if it’s prescription or over the counter, as long as you are taking them. She did however give me a bunch of samples and told me to “choose the one I like most.” How am I supposed to choose? By taste? You just swallow the things! So, I turned to my trusty friend, WebMD. Here is what they have to say:
- 400 mcg of folic acid
- 400 IU of vitamin D
- 200 to 300 mg of calcium
- 70 mg of vitamin C
- 3 mg of thiamine
- 2 mg of riboflavin
- 20 mg of niacine
- 6 mcg of vitamin B12
- 10 mg of vitamin E
- 15 mg of zinc
- 17 mg of iron
This is the list I followed when I chose my over the counter stuff (which by the way is the generic Target brand, exactly the same as the Stuart Pre-Natals if your familiar with that brand.) I’ve been looking at the ingredients listed on the prescription ones my doc gave me, but none of them have all of these things or the right amounts suggested. Also, my friend SusQ said her doctor suggested taking a vitamin with DHA in it, which 2 of them do, but they are missing so much of the rest of the list, I think I’d rather stick with my Target brand! Some of them don’t even have Calcium or Vitamin C in them! Or, way lower doses than listed above. None of them have thiamine, riboflavin or niacine. So, how important is the list above? Do I need to make sure to get EVERYTHING on that list, or just most of them? I’m perfectly fine just continuing to take the Target brand, but I’d appreciate some input if y’all have any!
4) Diet – what am I supposed to eat or not eat? I know that: hot dogs, lunch meat, caffeine, alcohol and soft cheeses are out. Anything else vitally important? Anything that is really good to eat? I was hoping for some sort of list from my doc, but I forgot to ask. Again, help would be appreciated. Or even a good website you know of that could help??
Okay, I think that’s all for now. Back to my paranoia!